The best sex toys for women have come a long way—and made a lot of people come—from the humble beginnings of steam-powered vibrators and rubber dildos. It’s always been more a more wide-ranging category than the equivalent tools for men. (Though one look the best sex toys for men shows that changing in recent years.) And can be difficult for beginners to know exactly what to buy, whether you’re shopping for yourself or a partner.
For guys, it can also be difficult to confront your own unease about sex toys if, for example, you’re insecure about your sexual prowess, or worried that you’ll be upstaged by a vibrator. But it’s important to remember that a sex toy cannot cuddle with your partner, or whisper filthy compliments in her ear, or remember exactly how she likes to be touched—so you’re better off viewing sex toys as your allies, not your adversaries, in the pursuit of pleasure.
Because the “orgasm gap” is still as wide as ever: straight men report climaxing during sex much more frequently and consistently than straight women, largely because most women’s main pleasure source–the clitoris–is all but ignored in typical heterosexual penis-in-vagina sex. But the good news is that sex can be so much more than inserting tab A into slot B, especially once you start incorporating tools other than the one between your legs. These days, having lube or a couples vibrator or even a prostate massager in your nightstand is just a sign you like feeling good—it’s the kind of thing you can get on Amazon these days. Because sex is more for for everyone when everyone is having fun, you know? So here are some of the best sex toys aimed at women (or anyone else with a vulva).
The Best Vibrator: Magic Wand Rechargeable
This toy has a fervent fanbase, which might explain its frequent appearance in porn—and it got even better when its maker introduced a cordless, rechargeable version in 2015. It may not be the most versatile or discreet massager in the world, but its impressive vibrations more than make up for what it lacks in subtlety.
The Best Bullet Vibrator: We-Vibe Tango X
They say that good things come in small packages, and this vibe is a prime example. Its petite size makes its powerful vibrations all the more remarkable. It’s also waterproof so it’d be an ideal companion for bathtime masturbation or your next shower rendezvous.
The Best Oral Sex Simulator: Womanizer Premium
Toys like the Womanizer use rhythmic pulses of air to create a clitoral sensation that’s somewhere between sucking, tapping, and vibration. This one has an “autopilot mode” that makes it feel even more like oral pleasure from a real live human (especially when well-lubed).
The Best Anal Plug: Njoy Pure Plug medium
This luxe metal plug is blissfully smooth, compatible with all lubricants, and heavy enough to be pleasantly noticeable but not so heavy as to be uncomfortable. Though it also comes in small and large versions, the medium one is an ideal size for most anal newbies.
The Best G-Spot Vibrator: Lelo Mona 2
Like any vibrator worth its salt, this one is powerful—but what really makes it stand out is its shape, which is so good that the toy can provide profound pleasure when rubbed against the G-spot whether the vibrations are on or off.
The Best Dual-Stimulation Vibrator: We-Vibe Nova 2
Dual-stimulation vibes—like the classic rabbit vibrator—are notoriously annoying to shop for, because the distance between the clit and the vaginal opening varies so much from person to person. This one bucks that trend with its super-flexible clitoral arm, which allows for much more variance in anatomy and also enables you to thrust the toy in and out without losing clitoral contact.
The Best Solid G-Spot Toy: Njoy Pure Wand
This gorgeous toy’s solid stainless steel construction makes it ideal for applying firm pressure to the G-spot. Just prepare to be in the splash zone if your partner is a squirter. (Waterproof poncho, anyone?)
The Best Realistic Dildo: Vixen Creations Mustang
Some guys’ insecurities make them feel envious or resentful of sex toys, especially realistic ones— but if you can work past those feelings, there’s a lot of freaky fun and mutual satisfaction to be found with a toy like this. Its dual-density material and gentle curve are terrific for G-spot stimulation, and can also hit your prostate if you decide to flip the script and get pegged.
The Best Panty Vibrator: We-Vibe Moxie
This cute little weable vibe uses a magnet to stay affixed to its user’s underwear, so she can position it hands-free however she wants and it’ll stay put while she walks around (or writhes around, as the case may be). Since this vibe can be controlled via a remote control smartphone app, it’s perfect for surreptitious satisfaction.
The Best Long-Distance Vibrator: Lovense Lush 3
This Bluetooth-controllable toy is a fave of many webcam performers, who let their fans titillate them from afar using Lovense’s well-designed app. With its rumbly motor and lightning-fast responsiveness, it’s also the best option for long-distance couples who want to keep their sexual connection strong while they’re apart.
The Best Couples’ Vibrator: We-Vibe Sync
The fabled simultaneous orgasm may not be all it’s cracked up to be, but if it’s what you’re after, the We-Vibe Sync can help facilitate it. It’s meant to be worn during sex, stimulating the wearer’s G-spot and clit simultaneously, while also feeling plenty good for the person penetrating her.
The Best Vibrator to Use While Boning: Zumio X
Clitoral stimulation is the missing ingredient from standard P-in-V sex for many women, and the simplest solution is a slim, unobtrusive vibrator she can use on herself during the act. The Zumio focuses ultra-fast movement into a tiny tip for intensely pinpointed pleasure.
The Best Unconventional Vibrator: Eroscillator 2 Top Deluxe
It may look like a medieval torture device, but this hilariously hideous vibrator actually feels like nothing else on the market—in a good way. It oscillates, rather than vibrating, so the sensations it creates feel deeper and it’s less likely to cause the temporary numbness some people report from vibration. It also comes with multiple attachments, so you can experiment with different shapes and textures.
The Best Cheap Vibrator: CalExotics Turbo Glider
Many vibrators under $20 are made of porous materials known to cause irritation or infections, like PVC or rubber. This one, on the other hand, is made of body-safe plastic, has multiple speeds, is waterproof, and can provide internal or external stimulation. When it comes to cheap vibes, this one is a diamond in the rough.
The Best Ultra-Powerful Vibrator: Doxy Die Cast
While this aluminum-bodied vibrator is too heavy and bulky to earn the distinction of best wand, it’s inarguably one of the strongest vibes on the market. Anyone who just can’t get enough will love this one.
The Best Vibrator Attachment: Gee Whiz
Slip this silicone attachment onto a standard-sized wand (like the Magic Wand Rechargeable or Doxy Die Cast, above), and you can instantly harness all those powerful vibrations into a shape that targets the G-spot. This attachment is also ideal for people who like clitoral vibration but prefer it to be more focused than the broad head of a typical wand.
The Best Thruster: Fun Factory Stronic G
Many G-spots crave fast, firm pressure that can get tiring to provide by hand. This innovative toy physically thrusts back and forth against that spot, freeing up your hands to do other things.
The Best Luxury Dildo: Njoy Eleven
This toy is called the Eleven because it’s 11 inches of satisfying steel; that much metal comes at a price, but for fans of big and deep penetration, it’s well worth it. The double-ended design gives you more bang for your buck, so to speak – and maybe you’ll save on gym costs, because you can definitely skip “arm day” after ploughing somebody with this toy.